Song Meaning, Song Lyrics and Music Analysis: “Wounded” (by Third Eye Blind)

This looks kinda smurfy.I listened to this “Wounded” song by Third Eye Blind on a long drive this weekend, and my analytical senses woke up and became suspicious of the song’s lyrics and direction. Asking what the song was about yielded a predictable answer. A quick scan of the interpretive postings on the Internet confirmed pretty much a unilateral perspective that this song is about a girl who has been sexually abused and her friend(s) wanting to support her and help her to get over it. The band itself seems to endorse this view. This seems like a pretty straight-forward plot-driven explanation for this song, and I almost bought into it that that was all that was here. But not quite.

If this was only a song about sex abuse, it would still be interesting if not thematically rich. But there is definitely a much deeper and more interesting subtext prevalent in this song.

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Lyrics:

The guy who put his hands on you
Has got nothing to do with me
And the bruises that you feel will heal
And I hope you come around
Cause we’re missing you
You used to speak so easy
Now you’re afraid to talk to me

It’s like walking with the wounded
Carrying that weight way too far
The concrete pulled you down so hard
Out there with the wounded
Missing you

Well I never claimed to understand
What happens after dark
But my fingers catch sparks at the thought of touching you
When you’re wounded

Let me break it down till I force the issue
We miss your face and you know I wish you
Would come back down to the Dalva Bar
You tell them, that’s just my battle scar
I want to kiss you
And knock them down like we used to
You’re the marigold
Till you’re walking down shaking that ass again
And then you walk on baby walk on
You walk on
On and on
You’re an angel in the pit with her hands in the air
And we’re missing you

Now it’s fall, and your shoulders get tighter
Nervous flicks on the lighter, boots
Your pissed off poets, your women’s groups
And the friends with you, we should have known this fool
Well I guess we missed the mark
Still my fingers catch the sparks at the thought of
Them touching you
Now you’re wounded

Let me break it down till I force the issue
You never come around, and you know we miss you
Well nobody took your pride away, I said
That’s something people say
Back down the bully to the back of the bus
Cause it’s time for them to be scared of us
Till you’re yelling, how we living cause you got the ball
Then you rock on baby, rock on, your rock on
On and on
You’re a summer time hottie with her socks in the air
Screaming I don’t care baby I don’t care

You say you don’t know
You say you don’t grow
All I know is we’re missing you

You say you don’t know
You say you don’t grow
All I know is we’re missing you

Show up
Show up wounded
Show up
Show up wounded.

Analysis: First off, I can see exactly why the standard interpretation of this song is that it’s about sex abuse. The opening line of “the guy who put his hands on you” is very a leading line, and when taken literally, immediately jumps the listener to that conclusion. But if you resist the temptation to start off taking this song literally, it leads to a much richer experience. This song can be plot-driven if you choose to interpret it that way, but it can also be metaphor-driven.

Yes, someone can put their hands on someone literally, but they can do so figuratively as well. When going out into the world, a person can start out happy and confident, but people can be “touched” by others in any number of ways that can damage their souls. You can be rejected for a date or a job; you can have your trust or friendship betrayed; others can criticize or prejudge you; you can fail to succeed socially or personally and any other infinite number of bad things can happen to you. And as a result of these negative experiences, someone who was initially lively and happy can become fearful of living fully and again being hurt–or, as the title of the song–“wounded”.

The overlying constant of this song is the desire and support of the people who care about the “wounded” person, particularly the singer, as the song both begins and ends with the assertions that the “wounded” person is missed: And I hope you come around/Cause we’re missing you/…All I know is we’re missing you . The speaker is becoming increasingly desperate to bring the “wounded” person back from the isolation that she’s imposed on herself, as stated in the repeated line “Let me break it down till I force the issue“. The relationship between the singer and the “wounded” person is strong enough that the singer is willing to take action that the “wounded” person is either unwilling or unable to do in order to try to save her from her own suffering.

The most insightful lines of this song are near the end: “Back down the bully to the back of the bus/Cause it’s time for them to be scared of us”. Yeah, when taken literally, you can accept that these lines are about beating the crap out of the guy who abused this girl as payback and to make sure she can be confident it won’t happen again, but when taken as a metaphor, it’s a lot more interesting. The “wounded” person this song is about has gone into a shell because of her past experiences and because she’s letting herself be controlled and repressed by her own fears. These lines represent the idea of confronting those debilitating fears head-on and triumphing over them. Following this climactic confrontation, the “wounded” person is able to reclaim her own life and live fully again, as represented by the lines “You’re a summer time hottie with her socks in the air/Screaming I don’t care baby I don’t care”.

What a bunch of happy-looking people...Essential Questions raised by this song: Can you live a good life without confronting your fears? Is the true value of friendship having someone to hold you up when you lack the strength to do so yourself? Is it possible to be happy if you hide within your own heart and reject others to avoid pain?

This is a song about the power of strong friendships and the necessity of others to get through the trials and pains of life.

This is a song about being able to face what scares you and embrace life both fully and without fear.

This is a song about the value of the bonds between people and the influence they can have on your life.

What “Wounded” is not is limited to being symbolic to those who have been or know someone who’s been sexually abused. Whether Third Eye Blind intended this song to have the amount of depth it has is irrelevant–it’s achieved an existential value of great thought and meaningfulness. It is thematically relevant to everyone who has ever lived, everywhere. Opening one’s self up to others is a double-edged sword–it creates the potential for joy and happiness, but is inseparable from the potential for being rejected and hurt by others.

If there is no pleasure without the risk of pain, is a life without risks worth living? Is that a fair trade-off?

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One Response to Song Meaning, Song Lyrics and Music Analysis: “Wounded” (by Third Eye Blind)

  1. Anonymous says:

    great analysis. couldn’t agree more.

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